Literally and figuratively. After I was set up on a date recently I realized I don’t know how to date. I had lunch with a friend recently and she used the phrase “serial monogamist” and I’d always considered that a derogatory phrase… or at least something one would never want to be, or become.

So I googled it. From Urban Dictionary:

function: noun
one who spends as little time as possible being single, moving from the end of one relationship to the beginning of a new relationship as quickly as possible 

although the relationships in which many serial monogamists find themselves are also often short lived, the defining aspect of serial monogamy is the desire and ability to enter new relationships very quickly, thus abbreviating any period of single life during which the serial monogamist may begin to ask questions of an existential nature

Eh. I dunno. That’s not really me.
From Wikipedia:
Serial monogamy is characterized by a series of long- or short-term, exclusive sexual relationships entered into consecutively over the lifespan.
Bingo.
I can’t really say I want to get into an exclusive relationship right now. I’d like to date – to have someone, or a couple of people, to call when I would like to do things. Yes, I have friends – and most of them are married (or seriously coupled) and straight. Most of them with kids. Is that bad? Heck no! I love them – but really, their ability to go and do a lot of the stuff I want to do is not as great as I’d like.  They are in a different place. Their priority is their family – as it should be.
It would also be dishonest to say that I don’t ever want to be with someone long term, because eventually I want that. I’m just not in any hurry. There seem to be a lot of things in the way, a lot of things that enter into that process and sometimes it’s a heck of a lot easier to be single.
But, I really like having someone to hang out with, to take to things. Therefore I must be able to find a happy medium somewhere. And I wonder if that’s dating.
The other part of this is necessity… I bought tickets to Wicked – July 30th @ 7:30… Friends really want to see me take a date. I really want to see me take a date. Circumstances being what they are, I need some options…
Some interesting points have been made to me recently:
– I have an incredibly busy life
– When I spend time with people, they are mostly straight, married, etc
– I’ve done married
– I’m great at alone
– I’ve got single down cold
– I need to hang an “available” sign around my neck
– Dating is a skill and in order to get good at dating, one needs to do it
– I have very little experience dating
This leads us to Match.com and the Wicked Dating Experience and the next few months.
I signed up for Match.com on March 9th – the subscription expires on June 9th. Not sure which day I’ll do the countdown from… Wicked or the match expiration… but anyway… I am trying to do two things:
– Learn to date
– Find a date for Wicked – not a relationship. Not a girlfriend. A date for Wicked.
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